Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Paradise on Earth

What do you postulate for others?

Think of someone at your work. What do you hope or postulate for him or her? Do you hope he or she will succeed? Fail? Stay out of your way? Do worse than you?

When people upset you, what do you postulate for them? For example, while driving down the road a car cuts in front of you, scares you and makes you slam on your brakes. What do you postulate? Do you hope the driver has a rotten day? That the driver gets a speeding ticket?

When you look at strangers in a store, what do you think of them? What do you postulate? For example, when you see an overweight person, do you think, "What a lazy slob. I expect he will never be successful." Or do you think, "I hope he does well in life."

If you see a teenager covered with tattoos, what do you think? "She coordinates her tattoo colors with her shoes very nicely. She'll go far." Or maybe you think, "What a loser! She'll end up in jail."

What you may not know is that the postulates you have for others affect you.
In an article from November 26, 1954, L. Ron Hubbard wrote,

"Sit down at a public place where many people are passing by and simply postulate into them, above them, around them, perfection -- no matter what you see. Do this person after person as they walk by you or around you, doing it quietly and to yourself."

"This is simply a demonstration of a fact that he who lives believing wrong of all his fellow men lives, himself, in hell.

"The only difference between paradise on Earth and hell on Earth is whether or not you believe your fellow man worthy of receiving your friendship and devotion." -- L. Ron Hubbard

Does life seem like paradise to you, like hell to you, or a little of both? You actually control this feeling!

You can prove this to yourself by creating a little paradise for yourself, right now.

Take some time to postulate perfection for others. Decide they are wonderful and perfect. Look at them and expect they will succeed.

Try it with the people you know as well. Make a decision that your family members will all be happy and healthy. Postulate perfection into your friends and coworkers. Just decide their future will be wonderful.

You are now a better person. The people around you now have a better friend.

How do you feel?  :)

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Sunday, October 2, 2011

A Milestone Achieved...

30th September 2011, it was a monumental day for me... it was the day of completion of the most interesting project of my career ... :-) many people would think it rather amusing that how can one regard the significance of days according to her projects, but that’s the way it has always been for me... many reasons were behind my formidable passion for this project, one of them being that it was my first project as a real team lead, otherwise before that I had been just toying with the idea... then, it was a whole technology shift for me and my team... finally, to add icing on the cake, I ended up getting rather satisfied with mine and my team's work; a satisfaction level that was very hard for me to achieve; as I’m hardly ever satisfied with my work...

I can’t say about the other stakeholders of this project, but can say about myself with surety that I’ve actually grown as this project progressed... I learned an endless array of things -both technical and non-technical- since this project commenced in April 2011....

During the project, sometimes I actually got hopeless or disappointed or simply tired by the continuous effort, but now, when I think of it, I don’t actually mind any of the late sittings or nights that I spent on researching for this project; I rather cherish them... as I don’t think that I will ever again get any likes of this project where you can work on whole new stack of BI suite, plus new tool for BPM; not to mention the rule engine that we explored in this project.. all tools being those that nobody in our team had ever heard of. .. and we actually had the luxury of time to learn them unlike the case with most of the projects...

Anyways, to cut the matters short... I’m happy so thought to right my thoughts down... It’s my personal happiness and my personal achievement regardless of feedback from my seniors... :p

I do hope to work in more challenging projects in future...

Saturday, December 25, 2010

School Song...

Today, I was having some small talk with my younger sister, and she just teased me about being a part of school chorus.. and suddenly it all came back to me... I was part of it from class 3, we sang what we called 'School Song' at that time, and I practically grew up singing that.. :D (I mean, I was part of it till class 9th, i think).. anyways, so with those memories I longed to remember the words that sounded so sweet at that time.. after thinking long and hard, i could just remember the first stanza and a single line from second one.. needless to say , that it got into my mind, and i couldnt push it out of my mind.. just wanted the lyrics at any cost.. :D
In the end, I got them from my school's community on Orkut.. and I was overjoyed to see that... :)
Now, im sharing that School Song here, for two purposes,
1- I don't forget it again.. !!
2- Someone else might find it enlightning.. :P

So, here I'm sharing it.. in the hope that I will try to follow it now.. :) In school, I used to sing it without thinking about significance of these words, but now when I'm writing those here, I truly mean what I'm writing... :)

I would be true,for there are those who trust me;
I would be pure,for there are those who care;
I would be strong,for there is much to suffer;
I would be brave,for there is much to dare.

I would be friend of all-the foe,the friendless;
I would be giving and forget the gift;
I would be humble, for I know my weakness;
I would look up-and laugh-and love-and live...
I would look up-and laugh-and love-and live...

This was all about my little nostalgic moment... will come back again.. :)
Right now, a review paper is awaiting me... :(

Friday, July 16, 2010

Why do we shout in Anger?

A beautiful story that I received in an email.... :)

A Holy saint who was visiting a river to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked
'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'
Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout.'

'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you?
You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.' asked the saint
Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.

Finally the saint explained,
'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other.
The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'
He looked at his disciples and said. 'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.'

Saturday, June 19, 2010



While a man was polishing his new car,
his 4 yr old son picked up a stone
and scratched lines on the side of the car.
In anger, the man took the child's hand
and hit it many times not realizing
he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers
due to multiple fractures.
When the child saw his father.....
with painful eyes he asked, 'Dad when will my fingers grow back?'
The man was so hurt and speechless;
he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.

Devastated by his own actions..... .
sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches;
the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'.

Anger and Love have no limits;
choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely
life & remember this:
Things are to be used and people are to be loved.

The problem in today's world is
that people are used while things are loved.

Let's try always to keep this thought in mind:
Things are to be used,
People are to be loved.

I'm glad a sweet person forwarded this to me as a reminder...
I hope you have a good day no matter what problems you may face
it's the only day you'll have before it's over.

I found it so inspiring that I'm sharing it here on my blog for my friends....

Friday, May 28, 2010

Learn to let go...!!!

Just came across a sad song that I listened to after a long time.. and a thought suddenly struck me... what percentage of songs and literature is dedicated to mourning for the ones who are gone...!!! almost 75%.. thats a huge percentage... of all the songs we listen to, there are around 75% songs that are based on either the gone moments, or on missing someone, or remembering some long gone loved ones.... (as per my observation..).. What came to my mind is..


Why we do so? why don't we just learn to Let go..?

Why don't we compromise on the facts that some people just aren't meant for us... or instead of mourning over gone moments, we should be happy that atleast we had them once...!!
The Answer is simple, because we don't want to... :) getting rid of old memories is diffcuilt than hanging on to them.. so everyone goes for the easier option.., not knowing what the consequences can be of sticking to same old point...!!

A person can make his/her life better by just realizing this... All is not gone.. the things that's gone was not meant for you... !! you have something better in store from God... :)

so, learn to forget.. learn to forgive.. and Learn to let Go.. !!!

Don't consider anyone or anything so important in your life that you won't be able to survive without them.... !!Love everyone, and help everyone.. but keep in mind that the person you helped once, might not come back to you in your hour of need.. thats totally Okay... someone else will surely come, or better still, you might find the way out of problem yourself.... God doesn't leave anyone alone... !!
Seriously, I've seen cases, where people ruin their lives for the gone ones, without even realizing it..!! Please come out of it...! you can either build or destroy your life with your own actions and thoughts....!! There's nothing more important than your own life... and your happiness.!!
Learn to live every moment of it,, and Don't look back..!!!
Just go forward in the search of a better present and future... Past is gone and won't come back..
I guess, enough debate.. gonna sleep now.. have Fun.. :)

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Who Is Stopping You? (Part Four)

The greatest barrier to your success is not the economy, your work habits or your opportunities. Your greatest source of stress is not money or the weather or any physical thing.

The biggest source of business problems, career difficulties and personal stress is the antisocial personality. The type of person who is devious, mean-spirited, cruel, hostile or negative. The one who openly or secretly opposes you, cuts you down and causes you trouble.

When you handle or disconnect from an antisocial person, you feel better. You relax. You succeed more than you fail. You have less to fight on your way to your goals.

The antisocial is also known as a suppressive person as he or she prefers to suppress your success, hold down your progress and stop your happiness.

The first four characteristics of an antisocial person are covered in previous TipsForSuccess articles which you can read at, and

Characteristic #5

“5. Surrounding such a personality we find cowed* or ill associates or friends who, when not driven actually insane, are yet behaving in a crippled manner in life, failing, not succeeding.” -- L. Ron Hubbard (*cowed: intimidated, frightened)

Like most people, you have good intentions and try to improve your life. Your statistics in life go up; life gets better.

But then you talk to an antisocial. He or she makes you feel like you are failing.

“You’re so weak! Act like a grownup. Get a real job. Don’t be such an idiot!”

“Everyone will think you’re a jerk if you buy that Mercedes.”

“If you don’t do what I say, your life will fall apart and you will suffer.”

If you believe statements like these, you feel afraid. You may get sick. Your production statistics and income will not improve.

With willpower, you may fight your way out of the mental turbulence and start to succeed . . . for a while. But then the antisocial will find a way to bring you down.

The stress of such situations is extreme. The stress can make you ill. As long as you are associated with the antisocial, you may never recover from an illness.

When you talk to an antisocial, you may feel all kinds of emotions: rage, grief, apathy and so on.

The opposite is true with a social person.

“The friends and associates of a social personality tend to be well, happy and of good morale.” -- L. Ron Hubbard

Have you ever felt wonderful after talking to someone? You are talking to a social personality. He or she wishes you success.

The social person helps you increase your productivity. When you make a large amount of money, he or she is delighted and never jealous. You can trust the social personality.

Some social persons have powerful personalities. They help you solve problems. They lift your spirits. If you are sick, they seem to make your illness disappear, just by talking to you!

Characteristic #6

“6. The antisocial personality habitually selects the wrong target.” “If a tire is flat from driving over nails, he or she curses a companion or a noncausative source of the trouble. If the radio next door is too loud, he or she kicks the cat.” “If A is the obvious cause, the antisocial personality inevitably blames B, or C or D.” -- L. Ron Hubbard

Terrorism, war and murder are, of course, wrong targets. No purpose is served by killing people.

Charles Manson persuaded his followers to commit several murders. He testified he was trying to improve the “establishment.” Later, he said a Beatle’s song made him do it.

Politicians, psychiatrists and social workers often select wrong targets. “Our mayor seems to encourage crime.” “He steals because of his chemical imbalance.” “She needs more welfare money because she had a bad childhood.”

You see examples of wrong targets every day: The driver on the road behind you who blames you for making him late for work. The patient who blames the doctor for his cancer. A man who can’t pay his bills and so blames his boss.

Prejudice and biased views are good examples of wrong targets. “We keep our company fresh and hip by never hiring anyone over the age of 45.” “Republicans have ruined the economy.” “Homosexuals are a threat to my marriage.”

Correct Targets

The social personality selects correct targets. “Our customer service is why our customers give us their repeat business.” “I’m fat because I eat lots of junk food and never exercise.” “If you constantly learn new skills and work harder, you’ll make more money.”

Intelligent social people can find correct targets to any problem. Examples: “You are broke because you don’t organize your finances and control your spending.” “The only reason you’re not married is you do not find out what your girlfriends really want.” “Give bonuses to employees who do the most production and your business will thrive.”

When you have the correct target for a problem, the solution is obvious and it solves the problem.